Exploring midlife existential questions, this post dives into purpose after 50, balancing menopause, energy, boundaries, and self-love. A personal journey of transformation, resilience, and renewed meaning for readers navigating love, independence, and the evolving self.

In my early twenties, I read the international bestseller, “Sophie’s World,” by author Jostein Gaarder, a metafictional story that invites readers to explore philosophy as a living conversation with a coming-of-age narrative. In this blog, the book serves as a spark for a personal midlife discussion: how existential questions evolve with age, how we define purpose after 50, and how we translate inner questions into action, growth and renewed self-love.

At age 50 and beyond

Now at the age of 53, such questions loom even larger over my head, while at heart I navigate deeper emotions of similar questions….Have I achieved my goals? Am I happy? Have I established healthy boundaries? Have I honoured the lessons of this lifetime that bring me closer to honouring self-love?

And fundamentally, what is next?

Goals, Aspirations and Hitting the Existential Slump

I have many ideas and goals, yet I have slumped. The cocktail of menopause, achy hips, and the grind of life’s challenges hits you harder at 50-plus. No longer does the body have endless energy reserves; instead, falling asleep in front of Netflix by 9pm has become a favoured occurrence.

Finding the Balance

Instead, the challenge is finding the balance to generate clarity and energy for one’s day, without exhausting oneself. Looking daily in the mirror, the character lines slowly appear, reflecting back at us our life experiences, good and bad.

My current wish is to learn more about this phase and to explore such questions: Who are you today?

Mothers I know from my generation, who, like myself, had children relatively late in their thirties, remain busy with parenting. Final exams, first jobs and learning to drive all whilst the hot sweats continue and living expenses are met.

Some women walk away from marriage and enter a life of independence and renewal. Other women embrace independence without children, stoically taking the challenge of a man’s world into their own hands.

Our own parents begin to pass on, as we approach the older age bracket of the sixties.

The Existential Crisis- A Hidden Gift for Transformation

The questioning of existence, the inner conflicts, and the loss of meaning are symptomatic of such a crisis. While negative feelings can occur, beyond the clouds lies an opportunity for transformation. We are metaphorically chameleons by nature, with an inherent ability to reinvent ourselves, urged on by the dark depression that looms beneath the hidden seeds of our own human potential.

The blessing of communication is to externalise emotion with words, away from the internal conflict that can lead to imploding emotion.

Lets unite! Join the group: Transformation & Soul Purpose

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A Couple of Gifts

I leave you today with a couple of my own inspirational quotes/ gifts/ inner seeds of potentiality from my book, A Leap of Faith.

• One a video inspirational poem of mine titled, “The Key to True Freedom.”
• And secondly, a poem titled, “Depression” about the fires that remain dormant within us.

Dig deep and fly high!

Love, AJ X